Hosting a gay sex party
So far, we have had some slip-ups where the condom tears or someone experiences fatigue in the middle of it. I am serious about what I do and safe sex is paramount. As soon as they come in, I allocate them a room with others to get ready. We ask them to get a medical proof of their blood test when they come in. I insist on compulsory STD (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) screenings for the people joining us. But we all know how out of control they can be.ĭo you set any ground rules before the orgies begin? If I wanted to, I would just get a DJ and call it a gay sex party (writer’s note: these usually include poppers and theme-based sexual adventures, and are mostly inebriated). It’s not much but I’ve never done this for the money. I myself take home a minimum of Rs 8,000 (USD115) per month. That’s how we have avoided having cops at our door. I also have to pay certain people off to make sure that the operation goes properly. It’s a headache enough organising a place and other paraphernalia. People are asked to get their own snacks and refreshments. How much do people attending these orgies pay to be part of them?ĭepending on the location, the entry is anywhere between Rs 700 to Rs 999 (USD10-14). But for new people, we have to be really cautious.
Some of them have already been with us before so it’s easier now. From these three platforms, I get a bunch of messages and then I have to go through each person (their profile) one at a time. I have an account on Romeo, Scruff and Grindr. Most entries come from dating sites for us. People come in singles, groups, as well as in couples. Mostly with gay men, sex is easier and hence everyone is on board with the agenda of the evening. We aren’t selective, but if you find a certain body type you like, you can approach them and see if they want to reciprocate. We allow men of all shapes, sizes, age and colour. I have to be careful so as to not raise a commotion. Several more apply, but I like to cap it off at 20. But with time and through word-of-mouth, we have started attracting 15 to 20 men each party. When we started off, we saw hardly five to six men. I have also organised a couple of orgies in resorts, where we booked the whole place out, pool and everything. I prefer hotel rooms because no one comes knocking-especially in Madh where hotel owners know people are coming for a good time. Areas like Madh Island are accessible enough yet properly isolated for this. From then on, I stand by and make sure everyone is comfortable. They know they are there for sex and they get to it almost immediately. But one good thing about having only gay men is that breaking the ice is not that big a deal. We have a common drinking session where we introduce ourselves. I let the people coming in acquaint themselves. People get creative and get their own lube replacements too-from Vaseline to ghee, everything goes. Prep work also includes stocking a stack of condoms and lubricant, mostly K-Y Jelly. I listen to it first so I know whether it’s worth playing for everyone. People are allowed to play their own music though, provided they give it to me in writing first. It’s mostly instrumental music like Kenny G. I have a bunch of playlists curated for these nights. I string up lights and have aromatic candles in corners. I wanted to make my orgies a wholesome experience, and so started throwing them in 2016.Īt our parties, we put a lot of effort in the ambience. Back in Mumbai, I accompanied many gay friends to different sex parties, but they were just focused on sex. This one was for straight people, but I went nonetheless.
I was in England in 2014 for an offsite project, when I first saw an online ad for an orgy. Raman: For starters, it’s not just a business for me. So, how did you get into the business of orgies? And some people-like Raman-are taking a lot of effort to make them happen.
There’s orgies for rich people, for the middle-class, for straight people and for gay people.
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All across Mumbai (and every other major city in India for that matter), orgies and sex parties take place in full splendour.